Before You Say ItThe BYSI Journal
Hard conversations, on purpose.
A field guide for saying what you mean, hearing what comes back, and staying with the conversation.
Listening & repair
8 articles
Listening & repair
What they will probably hear (and why your point disappears)
You meant Friday. They heard you take it back. The point died in the rewrite, not in their ears.
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Listening & repair
How to repair after you snap
The sentence came out harder than you meant. The next three days start here unless you interrupt yourself.
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You might be right
Four words that feel like losing. They are how you stay in the argument after defensiveness arrives.
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Listening & repair
One-sided conversations
You interview them all evening and leave unknown. Sometimes you never stopped talking long enough to be asked.
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Listening & repair
A joke comeback is not a repair
You won the laugh. You still have to pass the salt. Dunks store interest.
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Listening & repair
Celebrate first, don’t fix
They brought a win. You brought notes. Ask which job you are in before you improve it.
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Don’t wait until morning to repair
Morning-you wakes up next to someone who spent the night with the harsh sentence. Flag it before you sleep.
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When they go quiet after the ask
Quiet is not yes. Filling it with never mind is how you lose Thursday anyway.
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